Caroline over at Becoming a SAHM
wrote an interesting post
on how she had the worst week with a poorly family and how it really got her down. But then she reflected, had a night with friends and realised actually it can be really hard but life is still good!!
Sometimes I worry I think about how having a baby has changed our lives in too many negative ways. I think everyone does now and then. How many of you have less sleep, less time, no privacy to do a No 2, an untidy house, “munchkin marks” (my step dad calls them) on your window and more germs than you care to think about? I’d say I could get 100% if I did a poll.
Sleep deprivation and another cot full of vomit can make you think like that (we haven’t had the best week). So it got me thinking about all the positive things about having our gremlin and how personally and as a family, we have changed for the better.
We sit at the table for our meals. I admit it I used to (and still do) love having my breakfast, dinner and tea in front of the telly. It’s just so relaxing and I look forward to it. We soon realised that having a little gannet stealing everything was proving very tricky and that we should be promoting a positive family experience of eating. So when our gremlin is eating with us we always sit at the table and actually it is quite nice!!
I actually wake up and smell the coffee. Literally. Sometimes we are so busy you don’t even taste your coffee but now a cuppa and a snack I try and savour. When I am sat cuddling my gremlin watching Peppa I’ll smell her hair and touch her skin and be right there with her. Time is precious and it is hard but being in the moment just now and then is great.
I appreciate the amazing man my husband is. I’m so lucky. He does loads for our gremlin. He always got up with me when I was feeding her as a newborn and changed her. He takes time from work when she is sick and lets me have time to gym/scrapbook/blog/get my hair done. They have a great relationship too. We try and have Saturday night together now, no distractions just music and wine!Being at home is lovely. Before we had the gremlin we would (or I would…hubby doesn’t plan) do something most weekends with friends or family. Now we don’t. We have to say no or cancel to get family time or mainly due to illness!! I love putting my PJs on at 6pm, having a bath with the gremlin and watching Netflix. It’s cosy and it’s home. But in turn it makes me appreciate the time I get with my friends and I really enjoy it.
So there you have it. I know things do change a LOT when little monsters arrive on the scene but everything does get put into perspective….even though I have to squint my eyes and think really hard sometimes, especially when I’ve had a shower and can still smell puke!!!I REALLY appreciate what my Mum did for me as a single Mum. My Dad moved out when I was 8 and my brother was 5. We still saw him but my Mum did it all. Working, cleaning, shopping, cooking, sorting out the whole of Christmas!! and looking after poorly children alone must have been insanely hard work. I have the utmost admiration and gratitude for everything she did for us as sometimes it must have been a nightmare. I say this being in a happy relationship with only 1 child. Makes you think wow it’s pretty good.
|Mum, brother, me and my cousin
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