One Rule for One

Grandparents. There always seems to be one rule for one you are a kid and a different one when you have your own kids!

I got home from a gym date with the hubster (yes we are THAT cool) to be greeted by my gremlin with something in her mouth. One sheepish look from my Mum, made me realise she had been given some food. Probably something I would disagree with. It was only some malt loaf but Mum had conveniently forgotten about the chocolate buttons she had stuffed in the monster’s mouth earlier.

 

What is it about the Grandparents; in my gremlin’s case my Mum being so flipping soft? Turn back the clock 30 years and the story was the complete opposite. Some of my school friends classed my Mum as “strict”. I wasn’t allowed out much at night, no hanging around the streets, the park. Wow! How the tables have turned.

 

So lets just reminisce on how I was treated as a child by my Mum and how the darling gremlin is treated:

Sunday Dinner is left 

Me

“Get down from the table if you are not going to eat it! I’m sick of your messing. You are having no pudding and nothing until tea, In fact you will be eating this at tea!”

Standard Sunday lunchtime. Fast forward to tea time and there was a steaming, microwaved plate of rank dinner leftovers in my face. Nice.

Gremlin

“Aww bless her, perhaps she’s not hungry. Perhaps she would eat a fromage frais and in a few hours a bar of Dairy milk, ” my Mum now cooes. What the actual……….?

No Napping

Me

Get put in cot.  Scream. Get left in cot to scream. Probably coughed up a lung but I will be going to sleep.

Gremlin

Get put in cot. Cries. Gets checked on for a cuddle. Cries a bit more. My Mum is up there bringing her down as she can’t “bear” to hear her cry so much. Gremlin then either stays up or crashes on my Mum precisely 45 minutes before she is due to have a bath. Gremlin then won’t go to sleep at night.

Night Wakes

Me

Wake up. Moan a bit. Quick cuddle and back to bed. Cry a bit more. Get ignored. As above. I will be going back to sleep.

Gremlin

Cries a bit. Gets picked up for a cuddle and take back to Grandparent’s bed where she comfortably spends the rest of the night in loving Nanny arms. The little monster has NEVER done that with us.

Being Poorly

Me 

Granted this was when I was at school but I had to be either dying and vomiting. Otherwise I was going to school. “You will feel much better when you get there,” was my usual message as I crawled out of the door.

Gremlin

“Awww she does seem ill, Maybe you should be taking a day off work and keeping her at home. Poor little baby.”And so on…. Where were these sympathetic words 20 years ago?

It’s quite amazing how different it must feel to be a Mother compared to a Grandmother. My oldest friend’s Dad once put it very nicely. You love your children but you are in love with your grandchildren. You get to have all the fun; all the nice bits and hand back to tantruming snot bags to your children to deal with. My Mum had minimal patience with me but admits has tonnes for the gremlin. So, I suppose I can see it really. Still feel a bit hard done by! How about you? Are your little one’s grandparents a soft touch?

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40 Comments

  1. April 17, 2015 / 5:49 am

    My mum was quite strict with me and is definitely a little softer with my kids, though maybe not quite as drastic as yours. I think grandparents think they don't have to follow the 'rules' as they don't see the children so often. #wotw

    • mm April 17, 2015 / 7:06 pm

      Tehe this is a bit tongue in cheeky but the principle is true! I agree they just spoil them! Thanks for the comment xx 🙂

  2. April 17, 2015 / 10:54 am

    Hehe they do spoil their grandchildren, and it's great to see. I am sure when Boo gets a bit older my mum is going to be wrapped round her little finger

    • mm April 17, 2015 / 7:07 pm

      She so will be! Completely doted on xx

  3. April 17, 2015 / 12:04 pm

    What a fab post. I completely agree..my mum is so soft with M, but i remember her being so strict with me! #binkylinky

    • mm April 17, 2015 / 7:07 pm

      Thanks Sophie! Glad you agree too! x

  4. April 17, 2015 / 12:16 pm

    Ha ha, so true! I think it's the grandparents prerogative to spoil, isn't it?! Thanks for sharing with #WotW x

    • mm April 17, 2015 / 7:08 pm

      It totally is! Must be fun. Thanks for hosting x

  5. April 17, 2015 / 4:52 pm

    Haha ohh yes, we totally get the slepping in Grandma's bed! Drives me round the bend lol!!

    Hels – #WotW

    • mm April 17, 2015 / 7:08 pm

      Wow Hels…new baby and finding time to comment!! hehe x

  6. April 17, 2015 / 4:58 pm

    hahaha! It is a fact Grandparents are a soft touch….Some of the things my kids with my dad I would never have been allowed to get away with….I can't wait to be one x

    • mm April 17, 2015 / 7:08 pm

      It's so true! My Mum was so strict with me. Yes, it must be nice to be one x

  7. April 17, 2015 / 6:12 pm

    I think they must have realised over the years how wrong they often got it, and grandchildren are the perfect way to make up for it… Or something like that 😉 have a fab weekend x

    • mm April 17, 2015 / 7:08 pm

      haha! That's a great point! Thanks you too x

  8. April 17, 2015 / 6:59 pm

    Hahaha awesome post so funny it is amazing how soft they are with grandchildren isn't it? Though I think hubs parents were soft on them and even softer with Monkey hehe xx

    • mm April 17, 2015 / 7:09 pm

      Thanks Caroline. Aww I bet they were too. It's hard not to be soft with cuteys x

  9. April 17, 2015 / 7:02 pm

    Lol, so true! I think it is because they get to enjoy all the lovely moments of having little ones without having to deal with all the challenging ones along the way – I am sure I would have more patience in their shoes too! Plus you can give cake and chocolate and all those things without having to worry about the consequences!

    • mm April 17, 2015 / 7:10 pm

      I hope I have a bit more patience when I can hand little ones back! My Mum usually is so impatient but not with the gremlin xx Thanks for the comment x

  10. April 17, 2015 / 7:55 pm

    I love this post! Sounds like me! Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky

    • mm April 17, 2015 / 8:36 pm

      Thanks Emily and thanks for hosting 🙂 x

  11. April 17, 2015 / 10:49 pm

    This is so true, my parents are so soft with my toddler and he has them wrapped round his little finger!! x

    • mm April 18, 2015 / 12:45 pm

      It's so cute but you wish they were a bit stricter! Thanks for the comment xx

  12. April 17, 2015 / 11:17 pm

    I so so relate to this but my mum would never have it when I pointed it out ha! However, I know I will be the same when I/if I become a Grandma. Lovely pictures x

    • mm April 18, 2015 / 12:45 pm

      haha really? Bless. I'm sure we will be the same in future. Thanks x

  13. April 18, 2015 / 7:05 am

    Oh yes! My parents were super strict with us but I've already had to talk her out of giving my then 6 month old milky buttons *sigh*. The tot will be one the next time we see them and I expect I will be unable to hold back the sugar induced hyperactivity and resulting crash.

    #Bigfatlinky

    • mm April 18, 2015 / 12:46 pm

      What is it with chocolate buttons? My parents are the same! Bless. Must be normal x

  14. April 18, 2015 / 7:34 am

    I get so cross when the grandparents think they can ignore and undermine our rules, like you they seem way softer on the kids than me lol

    • mm April 18, 2015 / 12:46 pm

      And they always do it with a sheepish look!! x They so know x

  15. April 18, 2015 / 7:36 am

    This is hilarious! My parents have never babysat Toby (they're divorced, one works stupid shifts and the other lives two hours away) so he always ends up with my OH's parents – who are fantastic. Yes, they are a little bit more relaxed about their "strictness" but Nanny still has her rules! He does get a cuddle in bed with them though #bigfatlinky x

    • mm April 18, 2015 / 12:47 pm

      Thanks Jade. Glad Nanny still has rules! Ah to be fair my Mum cuddling her in bed meant we could sleep!! x

    • mm April 18, 2015 / 12:47 pm

      haha your very own gremlin. That is very late though! hehe x

  16. April 18, 2015 / 4:43 pm

    Hahaha, my dad is exactly the same! He's so soft, it's unreal. He's always giving him chocolate and little treats he really shouldn't be having – at times he REALLY shouldn't be having them! Ray xx @ lukeosaurusandme.co.uk #bigfatlinky

    • mm April 19, 2015 / 4:11 pm

      tehe I'm so glad I'm not alone in this!! xx

  17. April 18, 2015 / 6:32 pm

    Funny that you post this now as we have just been having this conversation about our parents! SOooo different. Thanks for linking up #bigfatlinky

    • mm April 19, 2015 / 4:12 pm

      Haha must be psychic! Thanks for hosting as usual xx

  18. April 19, 2015 / 12:46 pm

    Hahah so true! I am about to publish something about how grandparents like to poo poo over all the rules and structures we have worked so hard to put in place. Good call! #sundaystars

    • mm April 19, 2015 / 4:12 pm

      ooh you will have to share xx

  19. April 20, 2015 / 6:59 pm

    Hehe great post! Grandparents are so soft when it comes to grandchildren x #WotW

  20. April 23, 2015 / 6:16 am

    Yes it is exactly the same in their house, however those are the different jobs we now have isn't it. Mums job to be strict, Grandparents to spoil! #sundaystars