What’s Right for You – Motherhood The Real Deal

It’s the turn of the fabulous blogger Tayla at Motherhood The Real Deal to tell us what was right for her from pregnancy and beyond! 

A bit About the Blog and the Family
Motherhood: The Real Deal had been something on my mind for a while – in fact, pretty much since the moment I became a mother. Driven by the pure frustration (and of course amazing experience!) that is motherhood, and my disbelief at how much people don’t talk about or share, I created this platform to get some of the issues and struggles mothers should be aware of out there in a lighthearted manner. It’s a mix of opinion, advice and humour, with blog posts written primarily by me with monthly guest writers.

I’m a mum to a very intense, amazing little toddler gal (almost 2) who most of the time specializes in driving me round the bend. Having given up the working mum role when she hit 12 months (I was the co-founder and Editor-in-Chief for an online lifestyle platform) I’ve sat on both sides of the fence as a working and then stay-at-home mum and like many, have grappled with the issues which come hand in hand with both scenarios. Daddy is mainly found cowering in the corner from the crazy.

The Questions
Did you drink any alcohol before and during your pregnancy?
Before – yes in abundance especially when I knew we were going to take the plunge soon (wanted to get it all out of my system haha). During – no, but weirdly I just didn’t have the taste for it anymore..probably some kind of weird subliminal programming thing.
Did you find out the gender of your baby?
Yes – I felt like have a baby was going to come with enough surprises as it was. I wanted to find out the sex to help reduce a bit of all that “unknown”. I also wanted to find out to help with bonding in the womb, which for me, it really did.
Did you have a 4D scan?
Yes – I was just so curious to know what she would look like, and also I found it really helped me to connect to her before I met her. It was really nice because when she came out, she really did look like that and it was like – Hi there, I’ve seen you before and now I get to hold you – which was a really nice feeling.
Did you exercise during pregnancy?
A little bit but mainly because everything hurt if I didn’t – so mainly You Tube pregnancy yoga and pilates videos, and then managed to get over to a pregnancy yoga class most weeks…oh and of course waddling about as much as I could.
During labour – pain relief?
I really wanted natural but mainly because I was so scared of having something stuck into my spine..I’m not sure they would even be able to get near it I have such an aversion to being touched there! I was also scared of having a C-section after a bodge job on my sister so in my head the natural pain of labour always felt like a better proposition (well, the best out of a bad bunch) to me!
I went with only gas and air only towards the end, but had to have an assisted delivery to save the day. The only thing I would do differently would be to have gas and air from the start, and use a TENS machine (not available because I gave birth in Asia!).
Out through the twinkle (please insert your own word here) or the sun-roof?
Twinkle. And it was the weirdest feeling ever! I could literally feel her limbs coming out one by one. I’ll never forget it.
Breast or bottle feeding?
Breast but massively struggled.  I exclusively pumped for 3 months until the little blighter eventually cottoned on 3 months later!
Co-sleeping or solo sleeping?
Mainly solo but did try a bit of co-sleeping but that never really worked out mainly because it seemed to wake her up all the time. Even now if I try to bring her into my bed she will howl like I am a monster. Think she must love her independence!
Did you use a sling?
For a little bit but I was always scared that she was going to flop out! We mainly used a carrier but used it A LOT.
 When did your baby move to their own room?
Just shy of 3 months. It felt right for everyone.
Dummy or no dummy?
No dummy but only because we had enough sleep problems already and I didn’t want to add another sleep crutch to the ones I had already created!
Baby-led weaning or the purees?
A bit of a mix – think we started out with purees and then later on moved to more baby led weaning when she refused the spoon a month later. She has always been very independent!
Pink and blue or gender neutral?
Whatever’s clever. Or should I say, whatever everyone has been buying for her!
Are you a SAHM or back to work?
Initially went back at 3 months (hell! Read more here: http://motherhoodtherealdeal.com/2015/03/31/the-biggest-regret-of-my-life-going-back-to-work-after-3-months/) then SAHM which I now hugely love and absolutely no regrets for making that jump.

Have you lost the Mum-tum?
Think so but the hips never lie….and it’s definitely still a bit of the old wrinkly when I look down..
 When did you first leave your baby overnight if at all?
Quite early – think it was as early as 10 months and we continue to do so regularly as we feel it’s really important to invest time together as a couple and having that time away can really help you be a better parent in my view (despite my mum saying it’s selfish!!!).
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2 Comments

  1. July 2, 2015 / 8:00 am

    Thanks so much for having me on this – I love this series as it really highlights everyone has their own way of doing things and no one way is better! x

  2. July 6, 2015 / 7:41 pm

    What a great idea for a blog series, it's so interesting to read how others are dealing with motherhood. It also proves that their is not a one rule fits all situation with becoming a mummy. You have to figure it out yourself and find your own way. Thanks for linking up to #SundayStars xx