Just Laugh!!!

Just Laugh!!!

I have been tooting my gremlin’s horn this week.

We have had a couple of friends over; my Irish bridesmaid and one of my oldest school mates and his wife. Apart from a bit of whining, the gremlin was as good as gold. She was funny and charming, played nicely and no meltdowns. We have eaten out a lot recently and she has been so well behaved; eating and entertaining herself whilst myself and my friends have had a chance to catch up.

This little girl has been soooo good! More #chocolate #icecream #kids #toddlers #mbloggers

I mentioned in my weekly round up, how good she was at the dentist; was examined and perched on my knee, watching me without any fuss.

Sooooo I was starting to think this was getting too good to be true. A week of pretty good behaviour and no meltdowns?

This suspicion was proven to be correct when we all went into town yesterday. She was vile. Wouldn’t walk, wanted to be carried and when we refused, she would throw herself on to the floror and scream. Typical toddler behaviour.  Tired? Maybe. Hungry? Possibly but after lunch (her fave pizza) we had no rest bite. In fact it just got worse.

Hubby and I did the usual; tried to ignore her and just walk off. I took to hiding in the New Look entrance whilst I watched her (she could see hubby). What was good here was having a sneaky gander at the people around the gremlin and their faces. I was expecting some mutterings and potentially even some disgust. The gremlin was very loud and it was impossible to avoid her, plonked in the middle of the square in Solihull.

I was pleasantly surprised. Many people just ignored her. Others were giggling. One person spoke some supportive words to hubby and another asked me if I was her Mum hiding, whilst having a good laugh.

FINALLY! This is just how it should be. No matter how hard you try to be cool it is mortifying when your child goes into public meltdown. My blood boils and I know we have to ignore her and walk off. Trouble is the gremlin screams louder for a few seconds before picking herself up and running after us.

I find it quite funny after a while, as my inital anger melts away and what else is there to do but laugh?

Parents don’t want judgmental looks or snarky comments, they just want you to laugh along with them! Disgusted looks  seriously do not help and make a fraught parent feel worse.  In fact they mainly induce rage and a need for me  to bite my tongue in two to avoid mouthing off. God knows most people HAVE been there (even if they try to forget or pretend their little darlings NEVER had a meltdown (bull)) so they know some supportive words and a smile if all that is needed. Smiles and giggles were what we got today and it made a meltdown a lot easier to handle and cope with.

Thanks for that today people of Solihull.

Perhaps what I shouldn’t admit is we had an exhausted daughter who fell asleep for 90 minutes when we got home. Perhaps she was tired after all? Oops.

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  1. February 8, 2016 / 7:26 am

    Tiredness is always a killer! Even now at 5 it turns my daughter from sweet & lovely to tantrummy nightmare!! I remember when she was young, trying to put her in toddler reigns. The melt down was phenomenal and she ended up lying on the floor screaming in the town centre directly outside the large glass window of Burger King. The people eating their meals had quite a giggle! I will always ignore until it’s over. I also always try & catch parents eyes in the same situ to give a supportive smile. It can be so stressful. #fartglitter

    • RunJumpScrap
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      February 8, 2016 / 8:59 am

      It’s a nightmare eh? Poor you! I like it though when people giggle! So important to be supportive x

      • February 12, 2016 / 10:06 pm

        I think we’re all in this together! We need to catch a fraught mum or dad’s eye & let them know it’s all ok! #bestandworst

  2. February 8, 2016 / 10:03 am

    Youngest is going through this phase at the moment and it means the world when someone gives me some supportive words or a kind look #marvmonday

    • RunJumpScrap
      Author
      February 8, 2016 / 10:36 am

      It really helps doesn’t it? We are all in the same boat x

  3. February 8, 2016 / 10:30 am

    Oh I think I have been caught in the public meltdown a few times over the years, I think walking away and seeing the funny side is the best approach. #MarvMondays

    • RunJumpScrap
      Author
      February 8, 2016 / 10:35 am

      Totally agree! x

  4. February 8, 2016 / 12:50 pm

    Little B is in the tantrum phase at the moment – throws himself down and kicks, it doesn’t matter where we are… #marvmondays

    • RunJumpScrap
      Author
      February 8, 2016 / 7:47 pm

      Eurgh it is hard work eh? x

  5. Nige
    February 8, 2016 / 2:43 pm

    Great post been there just a few times lol really annoys me the looks you get fab photo X

    • RunJumpScrap
      Author
      February 8, 2016 / 7:47 pm

      Hehe cheers Nigel 🙂 x

  6. February 8, 2016 / 4:43 pm

    Ugh I hear you hon! I’ve just spent 4 hours walking round “The Deep” in Hull. Fabulous place which we visit quote often and the kids usually love. This time… The little man screeched like a banshee for around 3 hours and 57 minutes. I think my blood pressure is only just returning to healthy levels. A giggle with a couple of onlookers would have really helped!

    Dawn x
    #fartglitter

    • RunJumpScrap
      Author
      February 8, 2016 / 7:47 pm

      OMG you need your wine. I would have come home sooooo fast! Hope all ok now x

      • February 10, 2016 / 11:45 am

        … just about recovered now thank you 😉 Hope you and your little Miss have too. There will always be virtual wine for you here whenever needed haha.

        Just popping back through #bestandworst. Thank you for hosting xx

  7. February 8, 2016 / 6:53 pm

    I laughed as soon as I saw your picture. I wonder what people thought when they saw you taking it? I would have done the same thing

    • RunJumpScrap
      Author
      February 8, 2016 / 7:48 pm

      haha I did it quite sneakily x

  8. February 8, 2016 / 7:59 pm

    This is so nice to hear and you’re so right! This is exactly how it should be, we must all know how awkward toddlers can be and there’s no need to make parents feel even worse than they do about it. So glad you had the reaction you did, I always feel uncomfortable when Archie drops to the ground for a major tantrum in public. >_< Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays! Kaye xo

    • RunJumpScrap
      Author
      February 9, 2016 / 9:06 pm

      Thanks Kaye! I so agree and thanks for hosting xx

  9. February 8, 2016 / 9:47 pm

    I love this! I always try and give an understanding empathetic nod or smile of I see another parent struggling with their child, it always puts me at ease when someone does it with me xx

    • RunJumpScrap
      Author
      February 9, 2016 / 9:03 pm

      Thanks Ally! Me too x

  10. February 9, 2016 / 9:22 pm

    So glad I’m not alone – Noah does this all the time and I do the hiding and laughing. High five mummy, these kids are hard work. #marvmondays xx

  11. February 10, 2016 / 6:42 am

    This is like my days out most days… lol! It always comes after fantastic behaviour too so we’re extra shocked by the meltdown! Hope you enjoyed a nice glass of wine during her nap 😉

  12. February 10, 2016 / 6:54 am

    Every time I think to myself how good my toddler has been it is like I jinx myself and a few days later (or hours, sometimes minutes hahaha) she has a full blown tantrum. That’s great there weren’t any negative looks/remarks … makes it much easier to laugh at the little human we are raising 🙂 #BestAndWorst

  13. February 10, 2016 / 7:21 am

    I feel your pain. I really do. My son is going through a phase of being a right devil lately which is tough but I know it’s just a phase. Judgmental looks and sounds are not appreciated here!!! #bestandworst

  14. February 10, 2016 / 7:46 am

    That’s the thing about parenting – just when you think you’ve got it cracked they throw you a googlie you weren’t expecting and the learning begins all over again! #bestandworst

  15. February 10, 2016 / 7:56 am

    You are so right Sarah… Laughter is the best medicine! Nothing worse than when you are about to totally lose it and a passer by gives you… The look!!
    X #bestandworst

  16. February 10, 2016 / 9:11 am

    Oh dear! Yes, laugh your way through it…can be hard but getting stressed and annoyed just makes them worse, I find. Thanks for hosting #bestandworst

  17. February 10, 2016 / 9:46 am

    Yes. This. This is what we need to do, have a little giggle and try and make a bad situation okay again. Sounds like you deal with it all great! #bestandworst xxx

  18. February 10, 2016 / 11:24 am

    Oh my days, I am so not looking forward to this. You’re right though, it’s best to just laugh it off otherwise you’ll just go stir crazy in the middle of the high street. I love how in the middle of all the commotion you still managed to get a picture, ha! #bestandworst

  19. February 10, 2016 / 11:48 am

    Totally agree with this. Sometimes if I didn’t laugh I think I would cry! A good bit of laughter relieves so much tension and helps you through a bad day #bestandworst

  20. February 10, 2016 / 11:53 am

    Oh it’s awful…toddlers can just flip can’t they! Tiredness or hunger in this house makes things awful! Have to admit I love the piccie of here hehe. #bestandworst

  21. February 10, 2016 / 11:56 am

    You’ve got to laugh. Otherwise you’d cry and probably lie beside them … It’s so hard sometimes as there is no rhyme or reason to it. I always try and remember if one day is grim, once they’re in bed, then hopefully tomorrow will be better 🙂

  22. February 10, 2016 / 12:28 pm

    Oh I remember those tantrums all too well and you´re right, it´s so refreshing when someone laughs or smiles as you realise you´re not alone, we´ve all been there. #runjumpscrap
    http://www.rockingmummysworld.wordpress.com

  23. February 10, 2016 / 12:54 pm

    Really feel your pain on that one. Our eldest just does not know what to do with himself when he’s finished nursery. He’s been up since 6am, kicking the power naps, and by 5.30pm he’s transformed his emotions to the Hulk. #bestandworst

  24. February 10, 2016 / 1:24 pm

    I have to admit, I would be one of the people giggling in the corner. I don’t understand people who give these ‘looks,’ what’s the point? How is that helpful? It’s a child being a child, sometimes you can’t do anything about it! This post made me laugh…I can imagine hiding in the corner at New Look haha!

  25. February 10, 2016 / 2:23 pm

    Gotta love an epic public meltdown, and people can make it worse sometimes. So great that people didn’t in this case so refreshing. If I see another parent having one of those moments I always try to smile at them or make a joke about the fun of being a parent. No ones kids are perfect all the time and people need to be supportive when things happen. Great story, thanks for sharing. #bestandworst

  26. February 10, 2016 / 3:10 pm

    Haha this is hilarious! Yes I think if all parents are supportive that is a massive help. They understand what you are going through…..its those shaking heads and unsupportive glares that wind me up! #bestandworst

  27. February 10, 2016 / 6:45 pm

    I hate that people always have to be so judgemental. It was very refreshing to read that you experienced the opposite this time 🙂 Thanks for hosting #bestandworst
    Debbie

  28. February 10, 2016 / 6:52 pm

    I feel your pain, this is me most days! I have gone from losing it to shouting to a scary kind of manic laugh to now just laughing, because there really is no other option!! Thanks for hosting! #bestandworst

  29. February 10, 2016 / 7:58 pm

    Ah thats fab that you had so many normal responses, all kids do it and like you say it does noone any favours to act disgusted. I don’t let it bother me too much most of the time but we will see how well I will keep my cool as LM gets older!

  30. February 10, 2016 / 8:08 pm

    Back again from #bestandworst – looks like you’ve got lots of support in the comments!

  31. Nige
    February 10, 2016 / 8:26 pm

    I love that photo it’s absolutely priceless thanks for hosting the #bestandworst

  32. February 10, 2016 / 8:30 pm

    Henry is starting to show signs of mini tantrums. He had one tonight and if I wasn’t so exhausted after 10 months of sleep deprivation, I would have attempted your ignoring tactics. Instead I rocked him until my arms fell off. Currently typing with my feet x #bestandworst

    Renee @peonieandme x

  33. February 10, 2016 / 9:43 pm

    I love how many pictures you have of your daughter on the floor screaming in random places – it’s your thing! Glad the onlookers were tolerant – you’re right, that’s how it should be. #bestandworst

  34. February 10, 2016 / 9:54 pm

    Good on you, We’ve had a few tantrums in town beofre with Logan but not on that scale. I agree as parents we should support each other point and make snarky comments about our tantruming kids and what kind of parent we are. #bestandworst

  35. February 10, 2016 / 10:29 pm

    Laughter really is the best medicine… That & a large glass of wine! #bestandworst

  36. February 10, 2016 / 11:11 pm

    This is so true! All parents have moments when their little ones have melt downs or just wont behave in public, but as most parents know, there isnt much you can do about it once theyre in the full throws of it. Totally agree the laugh approach is much better than the cry approach 😉 Emily #bestandworst #MarvMondays

  37. February 11, 2016 / 4:18 am

    Yes, I often have laugh or cry moments when parenting our little terror. We had a few comments from other teachers about how the Baby can be ‘a bit loud’ during the field trip.

    #fartglitter

  38. February 11, 2016 / 8:36 am

    You just have to laugh, don’t you? We are very much in the tantrum phase too. I’ve long since stopped caring about the stares and dirty looks you sometimes get but my hubs still really gets stressed by it. It is so nice when you get a positive response from a stranger.

    You have to see the funny side with each other too or else you’ll go a little mad. When our son is going completely mad my hubs always starts quietly singing “oh happy days” in my ear. This always breaks the tension and makes us laugh, even when T is continuing to meltdown lol!

    Thanks for sharing x #bestandworst

  39. February 11, 2016 / 9:50 am

    Mine has just started in reception, and we had A LOT of this the first term. Funny little things.
    #bestandworst

  40. February 11, 2016 / 1:40 pm

    You’ve gotta love a good toddler tantrum!!!! And your children are totally abnormal if they don’t do it!! My children do this most days, usually at the same time!! I used to get so stressed about it, because it’s impossible to grapple two screaming, planking toddlers single handedly!! But now I just stay calm and silent, and weather the storm-they get over it eventually! I’ve had the whole spectrum of reactions, offers of help, sympathetic nods, to disgusted glares and tuts, to even one woman shouting at me ‘for gods sake gag them, I’m not here to listen to this’…. Argh!!
    #bestandworst

  41. February 11, 2016 / 6:17 pm

    I really don’t get why people give judgemental disgusted states. I mean all toddlers go through this stage. My four year old still has multiple meltdowns a day. It sucks but it happens and all it takes is one kind sympathetic and understanding smile from a stranger to make you feel like you’re not an awful parent. I’m glad you had a good experience with your daughters public meltdown. I be only had good exchanges so far too but if anyone was to ever make a nasty comment or give me that look, believe me they will wish they hadn’t lol. I’m not afraid of confrontation when it comes to people judging my parenting skills or my kids especially as my son has special needs. People are too quick to judge these days and it’s really sad.

    #bestandworst

  42. February 16, 2016 / 9:22 pm

    Ha ha she sounds very ‘spirited’ just like my Thea. We were shocked by how much she throws tantrums, as Ava only had a few. All you can do is laugh, otherwise you’d get a migraine. It’s the insistence on being carried that gets me, I weighted Thea the other day and she’s over 15kg! No wonder my back is always aching! Keep up the good work xx #bestandworst

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