I Quit (but it doesn’t feel like it!)

I Quit (but it doesn’t feel like it!)

I hate feeling like a quitter. You hear it all over. Don’t give up. Keep at it. Give it a chance. The encouraging phrase list goes on and on.

You’ll regret it. You’ll miss it. What if you never have that chance again? The scary, worrying phrase list begins.

I have recently quit something and it doesn’t feel worrying at all. In fact, I feel amazing.

In January, I decided to take the plunge and do a bit of private dietetic work, alongside my NHS work. I was given the opportunity by a colleague, who is amazingly supportive, so I thought why not? This could be a fabulous opportunity.

I had a good feeling about it. I may have been able to cut my NHS hours down. I was going to make a bit more money. I was going to get back into my general dietetics (as I am very specialised at present) and it was going to be a bit of a challenge.

Downside, the gremlin had to be back in nursery for half a day. We would have to pay for a full day and I had to get my bum out of bed early on a Monday. Also hubby was doing an extra nursery run. In someways this was better, as if I finished early or was quiet, I could come back and have some free time, a quiet lunch or some blog time before I had to pick her up. We could make plans in the afternoon and that was fine. However, the Mum guilt was really intense and I worried about what would happen if I got pregnant (I did) and if the gremlin would be ok with some extra nursery time.

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Things never turn out how they look in your head do they? Sometimes it is better and fabulous but other times, it just doesn’t pan out. This one was the latter.

The work was very slow. Some weeks I wouldn’t see anyone, which stretched into 2-3 weeks with Bank Holidays and me moving house. We still had to pay for nursery. I was expected to generate work and this was impossible with my other job, my life, my family and my blogging. Time is always short as a parent. I was losing money and never made a profit.

The type of patients were not for me. Too wishy washy, not enough evidence for their dietetic advice and I felt uncomfortable. I was starting to get stressed out 2-3 days before work about going in. This was ridiculous as I should have been enjoying my weekends, not panicking about who I would be seeing next.

Over Easter it was becoming just too much and I began to consider quitting then. I was pregnant and knew I was going to take a year out of my NHS job and anything I had built up in my private work, would be lost, even replaced by someone else. I talked this over incessantly. My lovely hubby and family were very supportive. Hubby and my step Dad who are more business minded gave me lots of tips to get around my niggles but I knew my Mum, deep down, thought I should knock it on the head.

The decision had been made and I calmly explained my decision and left.

I have not looked back. The relief has been amazing and I knew I was not happy there to be feeling so much better after quitting. This is one of the first weekends I have not felt nervous and worried. The gremlin is going to finish off her notice in nursery and then we will be back together on a Monday again. This is a lovely feeling and it will be lovely to go back to my old routine.

I know you have to try things out and give them a go to see how things work for you and your family. It didn’t work out. I was stressed and guilty. I missed my little girl and didn’t enjoy sending her off for that extra day.

I was a quitter in this situation but it was the best decision I have made in a long time.

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  1. May 10, 2016 / 6:46 am

    I think you were dead brave to make the leap and give it a try hon, and even braver to accept it wasn’t working for you. I’m a big believer that if you aren’t happy with something then you have to change it. Work is too big a part of your life to be unhappy in it and like you say you don’t want to waste your weekends worrying about work on Monday. Good for you lovely and yay to Mondays back with your gorgeous gremlin! Xxx

  2. May 10, 2016 / 7:29 am

    It’s great that you tried it for a while though and I think the fact that you quit because of the extra stress it was putting on you is admirable. Sometimes it’s harder to quit than it is to just plod along no matter how miserable it makes you. Plus a little extra time with your little one sounds exactly what you needed! #twinklytuesday
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  3. May 10, 2016 / 8:29 am

    I don’t think you are a quitter at all – you did what was best for you and your family. I think you were very brave to make the decision. Xxx
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  4. May 10, 2016 / 10:57 am

    Nothing wrong with quitting and you definitely had your reasons! #twinklytuesday
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  5. May 10, 2016 / 4:28 pm

    I read a quote recently. Something along the lines of ‘successful people quit things all the time – they just know which things to quit and when.’ Glad that you feel relieved about it 🙂 #twinklytuesday

  6. May 10, 2016 / 11:18 pm

    I tend to think of a quitter as someone who gives up without really trying. To me, you gave it your best shot, it wasn’t for you, so you left. That’s not a quitter, it’s sensible! #TwinklyTuesday
    Debbie

  7. May 11, 2016 / 10:08 am

    Good for you. Sometimes it can be hard to turn your back on something that you wanted to initially make work – but I’m a big believer in trusting your instinct and going with your gut. Sounds like it was a no brainer and at least you know that you tried it and it didn’t work out. Life sometimes has different plans for us x #bestandworst

  8. May 11, 2016 / 11:05 am

    Aw well it sounds like you made the right decision and you are better of for it!! I don’t see it like you were a quitter but rather gaining something more valuable in your life. : ) #bestandworst
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  9. May 11, 2016 / 11:20 am

    Glad you walked away; now don’t look back. Obviously, that’s easy to say in hindsight. Sounds like you made a great decision. #bestandworst
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  10. May 11, 2016 / 11:33 am

    Well done. Hope you’ll make great memories on Mondays going forward. #bestandworst

    Nadia – ScandiMummy x

  11. May 11, 2016 / 11:47 am

    I don’t think you’re a quitter in this situation. The opportunity and options weren’t there for you and you had to make a family situation. As you’ve said, sometimes these things look better in your head than they do in real life. #bestandworst
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  12. May 11, 2016 / 12:37 pm

    Good for you! Its so good that you knew it wasn’t right for you and you then took the step and made the change. It sounds like a great relief which means that it was what you needed:)

    mainy – myrealfairy

    #bestandworst

  13. May 11, 2016 / 1:12 pm

    Good for you lovely! It sounds like you have definitely made the right decision for you and your family. There is nothing like the feeling or reflief you feel when you make a decision like this that feels right in your gut and instantly makes you feel happier 🙂 Emily #bestandworst

  14. May 11, 2016 / 2:35 pm

    I always think it’s better to regret doing something than to regret not doing something. You tried it and gave it your best. It wasn’t for you. That’s not quitting in my book. It’s standing up for yourself and your family. Putting yourself out there and being strong enough to change things that aren’t working. Happy Monday to you from now on! 🙂 Thanks for hosting #bestandworst xx

  15. Nige
    May 11, 2016 / 6:01 pm

    Really good post nothing wrong with your decision be true to yourself thanks for hosting #bestandworst

  16. May 11, 2016 / 9:38 pm

    Amazing that you gave it a good go and have no regrets. I went freelance as a stylist, loved it, but missed my boyfriend so much as I mostly worked in London. Thankfully he married me, haha. Sounds like you’ve got a supportive man too.

    Enjoy your Monday’s with the Gremlin X

    #bestandworst X
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  17. May 11, 2016 / 10:10 pm

    Im glad you made the right decision for you and your family. No job or oppertunity is worth it if it is making you feel stressed and guilty. Life is too short, spend it enjoying life, family and what you do

  18. May 11, 2016 / 11:31 pm

    I just wrote a post about kids but it applies here…. You didn’t quit; you gave it a try and it wasn’t for you. You’re not a quitter you’re a “try- er!” We all know what works for us and listening to that voice that says this isn’t working is quite healthy.
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  19. May 12, 2016 / 12:37 pm

    I think a wise choice sweetie but sometimes you have to give these things a go to know it doesn’t work out. Onwards and upwards! #bestandworst
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  20. May 12, 2016 / 8:45 pm

    They say it’s better to regret something you did do than something you didn’t, and it sounds like you gave it a good go and made the right decision! #twinklytuesday
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  21. May 12, 2016 / 9:01 pm

    Ah well done for making such a brave decision. It sounds like you have been working yourself up in knots about it but you definitely made the right decision. Sometimes you just have to go with your gut don’t you xx #BestAndWorst
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  22. May 12, 2016 / 9:38 pm

    I think it’s the “trying” that matters. In our family we had to make a decision and we did decided to “quit” as well but we felt that we were chosing something better, and it does feel like that now. All the best going to back to your routine! x
    #bestandworst

  23. May 12, 2016 / 11:10 pm

    If you aren’t happy then this will show sooner or later. It’s great that you gave yourself a challenge and tried it out but your family will be happier if you are. #twinklytuesday
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  24. May 13, 2016 / 9:01 am

    You have to trust your instincts and nothing is worth feeling that way. For you to worry about going in days in advance it must have been really playing on your mind. I am glad you made the right decision for you, life is to short to stick something out that is making you feel that way. x #TwinklyTuesday
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  25. May 13, 2016 / 9:03 pm

    Sometimes you’ve got to give things a go to find out that they’re not for you or just not for you right now. I don’t think that’s quitting, it’s sensible! There is only so much that one person can do and, if you’re feeling uncomfortable or uneasy, that’s a sign to me that something isn’t quite right.
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  26. May 13, 2016 / 9:09 pm

    You were very brave to take the chance in the first place, and very brave taking the step back. It doesn’t sound right, and stress like that is never good. Glad you’re much more stress free now, and can enjoy your weekends and Mondays again. #bestandworst
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  27. May 15, 2016 / 1:49 pm

    Sometimes walking away is absolutely the best thing to do! It’s just not worth doing a job like that if you’re spending the days leading up to feeling stressed out! x #TwinklyTuesday

  28. May 16, 2016 / 11:16 pm

    I recently had to let go of a part-time work opportunity too, so this is a heartening read! I’m glad you are comfortable with the decision — the feeling of relief is just so fantastic, isn’t it! And congrats on your new little one!