To Clean or Not to Clean? That is the Question

To Clean or Not to Clean? That is the Question

My Mum is disgusted in me. At 30 years old this still happens.

So what have I done? Had some alcohol-fuelled incident? Forgotten her birthday? No I have got a cleaner. A cleaner.

On reflection I never thought I would get a cleaner. Isn’t that something posh or lazy people do? However, since becoming a Mum my black and white view points have somewhat blended to form a nice murky grey. Having a baby takes up your time; it takes up a hell of a lot of time. I have literally just lay next to my gremlin on my bed whilst she drank her milk and thought,when was the last time I just flopped on my bed and looked at the ceiling? I actually can’t remember. My spare time could never be wasted just “flopping”. I have Eastenders to watch, the gym, my blog, my scrapbook. Every minute counts from 6.45pm, when my little gremlin goes to bed, until I myself need to hit the sack. Well actually my very detailed husband informs me it’s 6.43pm!

My Mum’s other quite fair point is I’m only working 3 days. Can’t I get organised on the days I am off? And yes serious hats off to the full-timers. Mum to be fair didn’t work but still managed to clean the house with me running riot. I just find it impossible. My gremlin has started following me around like a sheep and her fear of the hoover has vanished; instead she likes to try and switch it on making hoover noises! I spend more time watching her then actually doing the cleaning. We are also usually quite busy on my days off.  We go to a singing and dancing class on one morning; I try and catch up with friends, shop, play with her, so the time just vanishes.The weekend comes and I want to spend it as a family, not tag team with my hubby doing various chores whilst the other one looks after the gremlin. Don’t get me wrong we do keep things tidy and reasonably clean; but a deep clean? Forget it.

Mum says she couldn’t trust anyone to clean her house. If my step dad does the bathroom, it’s likely to get re-done. Maybe I’m just not that fussy. We are in a day and age where we do pay for our precious free time. In the past we may have washed our cars ourself; now we can pay around a tenner and get it washed and hoovered and voila! My hubby pays for Amazon Prime – next day delivery for a reasonable fee each year, This literally saved us when the gremlin was born; nappies, toys, muslins ordered and in our hands the next day. Lazy? Maybe but it saved us time and stress in the craziest of 2 weeks when a little whirlwind entered our lives.

So after all the deliberation and chats with pro-cleaner friends (I love you) and after I found going back to work a little harder than I’d anticipated, we agreed to get a cleaner after Christmas. I was recommended one by a friend who assured me she was amazing and I wouldn’t be disappointed. I thought a good clean every 2 weeks would be perfect.

And were we not disappointed, We had our first session this week. Our cleaner spent around two and half hours in the kitchen. She cleaned our oven, our hob and even the toaster. It was amazing and I knew I’d never have the time unless we got the gremlin looked after for a day so we could blitz. She then went round the rest of the house and got it in great shape. We are expecting it to take a few weeks for her to get round and deep clean; then afterwards maintaining will be easy.

My Hob has never looked so clean!!!

I did feel a momentary pang of guilt; as a Mum and wife, shouldn’t I be doing this? But then grabbing my trainers and running off for a Body Pump class, those thoughts vanished quicker than you can say squat! Sorry Mum xxx

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  1. January 23, 2015 / 9:20 pm

    I am getting a cleaner, no questions should have got one ages ago!! After baby girl arrives the last thing I want to do is spend my time cleaning and I totally with you on this one 🙂 x

  2. mm January 23, 2015 / 9:23 pm

    OMG Helen it is the best thing ever! I can keep things tidy and cleanish for 2 weeks and then Tracy will come and do a deep clean. Definitely do it xxx

  3. January 25, 2015 / 7:36 pm

    DO NOT FEEL GUILTY! I wrote a post on this, as my friend was very embarrassed about getting one and I was like "why?" but it's to do with us all being so obsessed as women with doing it all ourselves. Good on you. I say that if you can afford it and want one then why not. Go you! Thanks for sharing on #sundaystars Jess x

  4. mm January 25, 2015 / 8:52 pm

    Thanks hun! Quite a few people have seemed really surprised about it. Honestly though my house was awesome. No worries about the share. Love your blog xx

  5. January 26, 2015 / 11:03 am

    I would love to get a cleaner and it's something I ask my other half for all the time. He says no, he's too proud – even though it's me that has to live in the utter tip (which he helps create) all day every day. I thought I'd be able to clean the house when I had a baby, how hard could it be? But it's a bloody nightmare – the house never gets tidied and I hate it. I am SO jealous of you.


    Jenna at Tinyfootsteps xx

  6. mm January 26, 2015 / 9:37 pm

    Awww thanks. My Mum is the same. It's just so hard as a Mum to find the time alongside having some you time! We have to wait another 3 weeks until the cleaner is back (she's away) and I'm worried she'll have as much work as last week!! #sundaystar x

  7. February 1, 2015 / 12:05 am

    The key was in the sentence where you said 'my mum didn't work'. Working shouldn't be underestimated as an energy and time sapper. Also my gran used to scrub her floors every day, when my grandad died she said she felt like she wasted that time. Life's more important than cleaning, but it's true that being clean helps so good for you for getting a cleaner. I had one a few years ago and am thinking of getting her back to do the deep clean stuff. I know lots of mums that do too, and they all work.

  8. August 24, 2015 / 6:31 am

    I am so jealous! Would love a cleaner and it's something we discuss now and again. But, like you, I feel I should be doing it. I have a 3 year old and a six month old and it is near impossible to clean my face with a baby wipe in the morning (yes that is now my cleanse, tone and moisturise routine!) let alone deep clean the oven! Fellow pro-cleaner here!

  9. August 24, 2015 / 2:30 pm

    I grew up with a cleaner, a nanny, a cook, a gardener, a chauffer, a butler (at my grandparents' house) My own house had a cleaner/cook/nanny. I was used to it. It was normal. And then we moved to the states. No cleaner, no cook, no nanny. My mom had the toughest of times getting used to doing it all herself and in the meantime trying to teach me. Back in Peru and i get, you guessed it.. a cleaner/cook/nanny for my house. I had one for four years that lived in my house and another for seven years that came every single day. And then I moved to asia. Now I'm getting used the doing it myself, but I have given in, I got a cleaner (she's not so good, but it helps!) #justanotherlinky

  10. August 24, 2015 / 7:40 pm

    Our time should be for us and our children as soon they will be grown up and we can clean all we like!! Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky – hopefully see you next week xx

  11. August 24, 2015 / 9:19 pm

    Oh my, I would love a cleaner so much. I'm not the cleanest or tidiest of people, I can never motivate myself enough. The issue is, I find I can't get any blogging work and stuff done because I'm thinking about how I have to tidy, so in the end nothing gets done. You have the right idea! #Justanotherlinky

  12. August 28, 2015 / 8:25 pm

    Haha this is great! I don't think I would ever pay out for a cleaner but would love too haha!! I love the good feeling you get after a good clean though!

    Thank you for linking up with #justanotherlinky