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Family dynamics are tricky to balance at the best of times, let alone when changes are happening. Children, whilst often the focus of any changes, can find family transitions challenging.
There are several factors which can help you decide on the support that will work best for your child such as age, type of change and temperament. Here are some tips to point you in the right decision when it comes to supporting your child through family challenges.
The impact of change on children
There are lots of different family transitions which can impact children. Positive changes such as a new home, a new sibling or a parent getting a new job and changing their routine can make kids feel unsettled. Some negative transitions such as parental separation can also have the same effect.
Changes such as these may lead to your offspring lashing out, becoming angry easily or withdrawing completely. It is important to remember that these behavioural changes are often a sign of unease or upset, even if they seem extreme.
Maintaining consistent routines
Where possible, try to keep the daily routines as close to normal as you can. Although this may feel difficult if you are in the trenches with a newborn or navigating life as a single parent, routines help to provide a sense of security.
Keep mealtimes and bedtimes at the same time as usual. Not only will this help your little ones, but it will also allow you to keep some structure in the day as you deal with your own feelings!
Navigating legal considerations during separation
When navigating a separation, you need to be informed about the legal side of the situation when it comes to your children. This ensures the best outcomes for your kids.
Make sure you consult with divorce solicitors with experience. They will be able to create an amicable environment where all the nuances of divorce or separation can be discussed calmly and properly but with your children’s wellbeing at heart.
Encouraging open communication
Kids thrive on communication so being as honest and open as you can whilst remaining age-appropriate is good for them.
Some kids aren’t very good at handling a difficult conversation or asking questions. If this sounds like your offspring then why not try something a bit different? Keep a notebook in a specific place where they can jot down any questions or concerns about the impending change. You can then openly discuss the answers at a predetermined time weekly or reply in the notebook for your kids to read later.
Seeking professional support when necessary
Sometimes parents may feel out of their depth when it comes to supporting kids through transitions. In this case, it is time to seek professional help. Therapists can often find ways of communicating with young people that seem like magic!
Being able to navigate these complex emotions will help your child build healthy coping mechanisms which they can take into adulthood.
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