Everyone has been so lovely since I announced I was pregnant. Lots of lovely messages and happy faces but the one thing both hubby and I have heard the most, “are you hoping it’s a boy??’ Do I WANT a boy?
It’s funny isn’t it? We have two beautiful girls and it is just assumed we tried for a third baby for a boy. This couldn’t be further from the truth.
When I was pregnant with my first I’ll freely admit I wanted a girl. Some may think you shouldn’t have a preference but I’m human and I can’t help how I feel. I’m sure everyone deep down has a preference. Of course I wanted a healthy baby but I couldn’t shake the deep desire for a girl. I guess I’ve always had a great relationship with my Mum. Shopping, meals out, wine nights, regular chats, a holiday to Turkey and planning my wedding! My Mum was at birth of my babies and even though there is no guarantee what the relationship with my girls will pan out to be, I’ve always wanted to be a Mother to a girl.
Everyone thought the gremlin was a boy, except me. I distinctly remember walking ahead of hubby and my MIL one time and listening to her say, “look how she’s carrying, that’s a boy!” I listened and thought nope! You are wrong. It’s a girl and I was right. I knew it, all along. Your gut instinct is very strong and of course for my gremlin, it was correct.
When I was pregnant with Piglet my gut instinct wasn’t strong. I wasn’t as sure at all. I know once again I’d have liked another girl, mainly as the gremlin was obsessed with having a sister. She would not even consider the idea of a brother no matter how much we tried to convince her how lovely it would be. I remember nervously going to the gender scan, as we paid to find out second time around. When they confirmed another little girl I was elated but my husband freely admitted later on he was disappointed. He wanted a little boy as had such lovely ideas of what is could be like but second time around it wasn’t meant to be.
When I met hubby he made it no secret he would like three children. I was always set on two and I’m not sure where his desire came from, as one of two as well. After Piglet, I didn’t have the “done” feeling my Mum talked about but yet I wasn’t sure about a third. We talked about it LOADS and hubby made it very clear he was happy to have a third girl, if that was the case. He wouldn’t be disappointed.
Falling pregnant again was a slight surprise, as very quick but we quickly started thinking about the gender. My gut initially this time was another girl but the 12 week scan changed my mind. I’m a nub theory lover and I felt it was distinctly boyish! A lot of people have said they think boy too. What do I want? This time I’m definitely not as fussed. Friends have told me how bonkers but yet loving boys are but I still cannot image mothering a son! I do like the idea of a different sex and a new experience and it would be lovely for the girls.
I’m going for it’s a boy now and as this post goes live, we will know what we are having tomorrow (watch this space!).
Hubby isn’t fussed at all this time. He’s said in some ways he would like another girl, as he loves the two we have! But there is also a part of him that would like the experience of a son.
But we never “tried” for a boy. That was never on the agenda. For us it was always just having a third to complete the family and I’m looking forward to the experience (if a little scared!!)
Can you relate?
As a mum of two boys, I have had people ask if I’ll try for a girl, like it’s a missing piece from the puzzle. In reality, if we had a 3rd, I would actually love another boy! I love being surrounded by my brood of boys, even though they drive me mad! Of course if I had a girl I wouldn’t be disappointed! I mean, all those dresses!
I would give anything to have a daughter! I am a mum of 2 boys!
So exciting for you, nature will do it’s thing and I’m sure number 3 will fit in perfectly, girl or boy. #BloggersBest
Oooh it’s so lovely waiting to find out if it’s a boy or girl, I remember those days so well. Of course it doesn’t really matter and whatever sex you have your family will go with the flow. I remember wanting a girl first time and there were no gender scans back then so I had to wait the full term before I gave birth to a boy. It didn’t matter, he was gorgeous. But when I got pregnant again I instinctively knew it was a girl. 16 years later and a new partner I had baby number 3 and we found out as soon as we could that it was a girl. The next baby was also a little girl but we kept her a surprise. Hubby admitted he was a little disappointed that he’d not had a son and we had agreed to stop at two. Then a couple of years later I had a ‘surprise’ pregnancy and hubby got his son. This time around I’ve found having a boy really different. He’s adorable, but he also brings new challenges. Sadly, his sisters quickly lost interest in him and now he’s just a pain who spoils their games. 🙁 He doesn’t really mind though. x I can’t wait to hear what you are having now. I’m going to stalk you until I find out 😀
Tough call! I am not sure what I would want? #bloggersbest
I have two girls and people always asked when they were younger if we would try for a boy….No way! I am used to girls. hehehe
I can’t wait to find out what you are having. #bloggersbest
So do you know yet?
I’m a mum to two boys and they are both SO different. BP, my first, was quiet and caring. He liked lining up his cars and driving them along one by one. He’s always been quiet and doesn’t go crazy like I was told boys do. My second, LP, on the other hand is SUCH A BOY. He’s the crazy one. The one that climbs on the furniture to see if he can jump high. He’s the one who builds forts. He’s the one who has drumming lessons, karate lessons, attends football after school and so much more.
I WAS done after having LP but I did secretly want at least one girl. I wanted to prove to myself that I could have a good relationship with a daughter despite mine and my mother’s relationship not being good. It wasn’t meant to be. But my relationship with my boys is good. My boys are 14 (!) and 9 now and I wouldn’t have life any other way. Life with boys is crazy a lot of the time, but they are so loving.
Great post. xx
I can totally relate to this – I wanted two healthy babies. I really wanted a girl and I was lucky to be gifted that wish in my first pregnancy. I admit I did want a boy the second time and thankfully I did. I wanted a son for my husband and I wanted the best of both worlds. But at the end of the day, whatever we had, we would be happy as long as the babies were healthy x #BloggersBest
I have a boy and a girl and although I wanted a third, my Hubbie didn’t. That was that as I could never trick him into having a third. I feel that if I’d had 2 girls first, I may have been able to sway him but I’m so content now with my two. Some people have quite strong feelings but I truly believe that you will love whatever you get! #bloggersbest
Congratulations on your third pregnancy. I’m sure what ever you have it will easily fit into your family unit #bloggersbest
Ooh, did you find out already then? And it’s true – people seem to think if you have one gender, you MUST be trying for the other if you get pregnant again. #bloggersbest
Congratulations on your pregnancy. Im a mum of 5 boys so i’m bias.
Congratulations and wishing you all the best with the new baby whatever the gender. #BloggersBest
I wanted a girl when I got pregnant for the first time because that’s what I knew about (had a boy), a boy second time round to play with my eldest (had a girl), a girl 3rd time so close in age to my 2nd (had a boy). It really made no difference as my children are devoted to each other. I would love a 4th baby (even up the score with a girl…?) but my husband doesn’t want anymore :'( #bloggersbest
Reading this knowing the outcome of your gender reveal! People are funny with the things they say aren’t they – if I had £1 for every time someone said ‘well it doesn’t matter now’ knowing I already had a girl & a boy when I was expecting number 3 I would be very rich indeed! #bloggersbest