I’ve hit the pregnancy wall. I’m finally admitting it. Pregnancy when you already have a toddler is mental. Full on. Busy. Tiring. You name it! I’m feeling it! I’m shouting it out – being pregnant with baby number 2 is hard!
Being Pregnant With Baby Number 2 is Hard!!
Things have started to get a bit much since hubby and my anniversary break. I’ve had a great pregnancy overall and been really lucky but 38 weeks has brought tears and wacky emotions, serious baby brain (dopiness like you wouldn’t believe. Forgot my keys, left my pic n mix on the side in the cinema (seriously?!) and was late arriving). Also killer Braxton Hicks when I walk, eat and even sit some days. A few times I have even thought this is it as they have come in so regularly, just for them to wane or for me to just need to toilet. Seriously bowels?! The fear of running late with this girlie and being induced are starting to grip a bit, even though I know I have to be chilled and avoid a strict birth plan as such. I have to go with the flow!
But what makes it the hardest? The responsibility for a gremlin; my lovely first born. She isn’t doing anything wrong, bless her. In fact she’s been pretty well behaved. Apart from when she has been tired, tantrums have been rare and I haven’t had to really raise my voice.
I’ve had some help from my Mum but even that got a little overwhelming as the gremlin is extremely giddy at the moment! Everything is hilarious; snorting, screeching, giggling and generally procrastinating! Funny on a good day; not so much when you are in the throes of Braxton Hicks and general meh.
Maternity leave no 1 I was pretty busy. I cleaned, gymed, swam, baked and met friends. What I also did was sit on my ass between all this, paint my nails, watch films and played on my iPad a lot!! Basically rested more. Of course it is never going to be the same with you have one to look after already. Wiping bums, cleaning rice off the floor, sitting with a dummy in my mouth, playing babies were not in the equation.
I’m a busy bee and it drives my husband mad. My own fault? Probably but the gremlin is pretty shite at entertaining herself. Just as I am shite at sitting still…..
I have to say again being pregnant with baby number 2 is hard!!
She hovers, wants me to play constantly and rarely just goes off and starts a solitary game. Therefore a full day in the house alone gets very hard when her mother can barely roll off the sofa! But when a walk to the park makes me feel like my belly could explode, I’m having to think twice! Also tricky when the gremlin has seemed to have inherited my goldfish attention span; 30 mins of TV and we are often done. Bored and let’s move on. A plus in a way but not when another round of games on the floor is on the cards! Why?!
I know all the second, third, fourth time mums have done it! You just do! And another baby will bring another load of joy and challenges. But hopefully I will be able to move about a little more.
I have woken up today with a bit of a different mindset. I have to ignore every little niggle unless it is painful and I have to just get on with it! Suck it up Mama! I have felt much better, with less tightenings. The gremlin and I have managed to go into town and played for a good couple of hours. I am currently relying on the TV but have realised, hey who gives a crap? You are 39 weeks pregnant and like a whale. The gremlin is happy sat next to me on the sofa.
I knew it would get tricky towards the end and I hate moaning much during pregnancy, as I do believe it really is a blessing (barf but true) but sometimes you need to bitch and whine and just move on!
Those who go on to have a third….you amazing ladies!!
I was lucky in that my firstborn had started school bh the time I was hugely pregnant with bump 2. It gave me plenty of time to rest during the day. I would have been a wreck otherwise, so you have my utmost respect.
I remember being sooo tired in the last stages of my pregnancy, all I did was sleep. Can’t imagine what it’s like having a toddler to look after…good luck! #bestandworst
I couldn’t even imagine how hard it would be to be heavily pregnant now with my son the age he’s at (almost 3). It would be so difficult. I take my hat off to you and just think, the finish line is in sight! #bestandworst
I don’t kbow how you cope. Ella’s 8 so she was good and understood I needed to rest and even let me have an hour in bed one day when I felt really rough. Here’s hoping Piglet puts in an appearance soon! This might be your last #bestandworst for a bit!!
Come on piglet!!! I remember the last days being so tough, the week before Baby arrived my biggest decided to stop napping, then I drove the car into a bollard and then we had the baby and the world went back to normal!
It really is so different with baby 2 isn’t it? No more box sets snuggled in a duvet nest on the sofa at 2pm! *sobs* I think you just have to try and be kind to yourself. I used to have quite a strict TV regime until I was heavily pregnant with my second and them it all kind of went out of the window and we did what we needed to do to keep everyone entertained and a little bit rested. I really used and abused our local sure start centres stay and play sessions too. The staff were great at helping me do some of the heavy lifting if Miss Tot was playing on the bikes etc, and they stepped up again to help out a bit once Mstr Tot had made his appearance. It was like having an extra pair of hands while letting the big one run around and play. Not long now lovely. Sending hugs xx
… Ooh and thanks for hosting! #best and worst x
it is tough with two but don”t worry soon you will establish the routine. When the get older it will be worth it when you hear them laughing and playing so sweetly together X #bestandworst
You are completely allowed to feel this way. It was exhausting being pregnant and that’s without a toddler to look after! #bestandworst
Already having one child definitely changes what you can and can’t do during maternity leave. Hopefully baby #2 comes along soon! Then you won’t have problems entertaining your gremlin! #bestandworst
I was so tired too when I was pregnant with my second. My eldest had just started to find her feet and I was chasing her around everywhere! Get those feet up!
So I have had four daughters in seven years. The second pregnancy was the WORST emotionally. I was an anxious depressed hot mess. My third pregnancy was a percarious identical twin pregnancy- you would think that one would have taken the cake…nope second pregnancy – worst all the way.
Hang in there…for like 20 more years! 🙂
Home stretch!! Let me tell you with each of my pregnancies at the end I always felt I had to apologize to people because I carried on like I was the only person in the world who had ever been that pregnant with toddler in tow. 😉 But it doesn’t bother me at all to hear other moms moan about it. IT’S HARD. And you’re right about it all being worth it. When I had my 2nd baby my oldest held her and looked at me and said, “Mom, I’ve never felt this way before,” and I cried like crazy at how sweet I didn’t realize he’d feel. Then he was over it by the next sister haha. Everything will change and it will be rough and new and odd and overwhelming, but you will love it. Here’s to those final days! Cry and complain all you want, you’re working your butt off!
Just copied and pasted this blog post to my husband, my Mum, my whats app NCT group and my best friend Julie. So they no longer have to ask, “when are we/you having another baby”. I wait patiently for your blog post “it was so worth it” as would secretly love another x Renee @peonieandme #bestandworst
I don’t envy you! I found rolling off the sofa to walk the dog bad enough. Not long left not though – you’re on the home straight! #bestandworst
Oh hun I feel for you, when I was pregnant with LP BP was 5 and at school. It certainly made things a little easier to have a break during the day. Try relaxing hun. xxx
Yep I remember that feeling well, thinking WOW this is so much harder! When I got to baby number five I realised that actually, being pregnant with your second is easy. Haha!! Just stick with two, it will get a whole lot worse before it gets better but once you’re out of the newborn stage it will all get easier, promise! #bestandworst
Hey, I feel exactly the same, just how do those mamas with more than two do it?! Crazy. It was definitely hard towards the end of my pregnancy two, and you know what, it doesnt actually get any easy once baby arrives. The thing that has surprised me the most second time round is how easy it is to look after a baby, because its actually the toddler the takes up all your time, attention and energy! Emily #bestandworst
You are allowed a little moan honey you are 39 weeks pregnant!!Plus looking after a lively toddler makes things super difficult…..you are sooo nearly there….then the next action adventure begins lol. Look after yourself honey #bestandworst
The boy started school two months before the girl was born, so my last few months had a bit more rest, but i still hit the wall at 37 weeks. You’ve done really well, supermum.
we’re talking about a number 3…i suspect i’ll hit the wall week four or five
I remember pregnancy #2. I didn’t feel too bad as far as pregnancy goes, but boy was I tired and you just don’t get to nap!! My #2 was early by 8 days and I’m sure it was because I lived in a place where to leave the house I had to climb 20 steps, a steep driveway AND a block of hilly sidewalk to get to my car. I spent 75% of that pregnancy panting and stopping to try and catch my breath. :/ Good luck with your birth!!!
Not long now – hang on in there! As I’m writing this, your little one may even be making an appearance! You’ve done so well to stay positive for so long, it’s really really hard. There’s only 18 months between my two, and I remember thinking on many occasions “What was I thinking?!?”. But soon you’ll be smiling with that huge rush of new Mamma love, and it will all be worth it. Good luck xx #BestandWorst
I remember this feeling well. Luckily my son had just started school so at least I had some peace during the day for most of the pregnancy but as the second was an August baby the end of the pregnancy fell in the summer holidays and my son wanted entertaining every second. The tv and iPad became my best friends! You’re doing great hun, hope little one doesn’t keep you waiting too much longer x
Oh my goodness I was nodding in agreement before I even clicked into the post!! Being pregnant with a toddler in tow is a whole new realm of crazy.
But being a mother for the 2nd time is when the pregnancy crapiness plays off – it’s so much easier!! Or perhaps you are just a little bit more know-howish which give that illusion. Either way, there is defo something in that.
Good luck with the next couple of weeks: it’s the tick tock game now…
big love, L
Pregnancy is so much harder each time I know that haha… its such a mix of emotions, pure exhaustion and as you say – that MEH feeling but im telling you as annoying as it was Paw patrol, netflix and everything in between saved me this time. It helped me rest a little longer but I lost patience and couldn’t keep up with the others by the end haha. You are doing amazing and yeah its tiring, sore and all but the end is nigh that baby will be out so it wont last forever! oh and have number 3 when Gremlin is in school, its a little more manageable lol x
this is a great post and one that many 2nd time mums will relate to. I have already had enough with this pregnancy is it unbelieveably hard and I’m not allowed to do much now. I hope you aren’t kept waiting long for the arrival of piglet.
I think we forget over time how hard pregnancy is especially in the third trimester. Not long to go now. #bestandworst
Oh I do feel for you. It’s completely ok to have a little moan because the second pregnancy is so much harder than the first, especially when your first child is then a toddler! You’re so close to the finish line now and it is the harsh reality that mamas need to suck it up sometimes and carry on with their little ones as normal. As tiring as it is! But the TV can be our saviour so don’t feel bad if you both fancy snuggling up in front of Peppa for an afternoon. I don’t think you need to worry about being induced you’ve been so active that I can’t see that little girly staying for too long! x #bestandworst
Being pregnant with number three is hard too! I guess you just get used to it! #bestandworst
Ah bless you. Not long now. Soon she will be so enthralled by her brother or sister that she’ll be wanting to help you out. The end is so hard without another child to look after. I can remember being stuck on the sofa too uncomfortable to do anything so hats off to you for managing what you are! #bestandworst